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This Is Not Lemonade

This Is Not Lemonade

(Photo credit: Dailydot.com) Can we talk? I want to offer this disclaimer about my social media-especially my Facebook. One of the things I learned during my study was that some of us have themes in mind when it comes to the construction of our online personas. I know I definitely do. Having conducted an academic […]

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Make Sure You’re Not Trash

Make Sure You’re Not Trash

“Oh great. Now I’m the daggone villain.” PHAEDRA GIRL STOP. (Photo courtesy of Bravo TV) Background: Hey. In the age of memes and endless think pieces, my own included, we are easily inundated with “self care” shit. We read all these posts about how to protect the energy around us, not being afraid of cutting […]

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Who Said Conflict Was a Dirty Word Any Damn Way?

Who Said Conflict Was a Dirty Word Any Damn Way?

God, I love how these women so beautifully illustrate the phenomenon of interpersonal relationships among women. REAL HOUSEWIVES franchise appreciation is a lost art.  Anyway, I’ve been busy as hell preparing for this Cinco de Mayo graduation (RISE OF DR. BROOKS: WORLD DOMINATION LOL )  so I fell off with my podcast AND my damn […]

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We Repeat What We Don’t Repair 

We Repeat What We Don’t Repair 

We repeat what we don’t repair.  We repeat what we don’t repair.  We repeat what we don’t repair.  We repeat what we don’t repair.  We repeat what we don’t repair.  From my heart to yours.  I saw a meme with that phrase on it today and had to get off the treadmill to address it. […]

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SPOILER ALERT: You’re Not Going to Die

SPOILER ALERT: You’re Not Going to Die

Fact: Being in love is euphoric. Fact: Being heartbroken sucks. Fact: You can survive it. Hi Everyone 🙂 Today, I want to talk about dealing with heartbreak as an adult. Background I can vividly recall the moment I felt my heart being ripped right out of my chest. The shit was so painful that I […]

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Because Rules: Social Media Commandments for the 30+

Because Rules: Social Media Commandments for the 30+

Background When you’re over 30, you grow. And with that growth, your social media behaviors should shift as well. People in their 20s are crazy AF. They don’t give a f*ck. They don’t have to yet. But we do. According to the Uses & Gratifications Theory research, human beings use social media with the following […]

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Just Be a D*mn Star: The Importance of Silencing Self-Limiting Beliefs

Just Be a D*mn Star: The Importance of Silencing Self-Limiting Beliefs

  Hi everybody… A dear friend said this in our GroupMe thread the other day, and it motivated the hell out of me. She was referring to someone else, but it TRULY resonated. Well what she actually said was “Become a star, b*tch,” but I know that many would find that title off-putting and could place yourselves at […]

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The Evolution of Gratitude

The Evolution of Gratitude

Hi, thanks for reading this. I am about to take you on a difficult, but necessary journey. Please share with anyone who needs this in time for the holidays. Background… It starts like this…I am at a family function or just sitting around my mother’s house-doing nothing in particular and he’s there or I hear […]

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In the Spirit of 8/19… 20 Things I learned from My Father

In the Spirit of 8/19… 20 Things I learned from My Father

Note: This was originally posted on another platform back in August, my goal is to TRY and consolidate all of my work on one site from now on. Please note I said TRY lol. 🙂 This past Father’s Day was pretty rough for me. I found myself bombarded by posts from people with fathers and without […]

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