Captain Awkward

#969: “When spouses don’t agree about birth control.”

#969: “When spouses don’t agree about birth control.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I’ve been reading your blog for awhile and just love it! Your answers and the community here are both awesome. So thanks. My question is really tough and I’m afraid your answer is going to be “there is no actual compromise possible here.” But I’m going to try. My husband and I […]

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Weird Video Ad Behavior on WordPress.com

Weird Video Ad Behavior on WordPress.com

Edited to Add: WE DID IT! YOU DID IT! Ads will be turned off June 1 and stay off as long as Patreon funding stays at current levels. THANK YOU. ———————————————— Hello friends! Some kind folks have sent me messages like this this week: Hi Captain, This isn’t exactly a question, but more of a […]

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#968: “How can I stop fat-shaming myself and enjoy my life?”

#968: “How can I stop fat-shaming myself and enjoy my life?”

Hi Captain! My problem is one that I imagine is very, very common, but I’ll start with a little background on my specific situation. I recently started going to therapy for some pretty serious self esteem issues that had led to me isolating myself for a long time. Up until this year I hadn’t been […]

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#967: “Am I signing up to be a business partner or reluctant caretaker?”

#967: “Am I signing up to be a business partner or reluctant caretaker?”

Dear Captain Awkward, Almost a year and a half ago, while I was in tenuous material circumstances myself, my partner of less than a year got sick. One minute they were having a biopsy and the next minute they were fresh out of what turned out to be cancer surgery. Shocked, I didn’t have the […]

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#966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

#966: “Boundaries, Love, Death, Denial, Manners, & Kink” or “1 Husband, 1 Lover, 1 Burned-Out Caregiver & The Next Five Years”

Hi Captain! All names have been changed to protect the guilty. Sorry this is long, but the backstory is rather necessary. I’m a 45 year old pansexual poly woman. I’ve been with Wolfie since I was 18, married him at 23, and had two sons with him, who are now both out of the house. […]

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#965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”

#965: “My mom wants me to be her #1 sounding board and support system about her troubled marriage.”

Hi Captain, I am an adult (early 30’s) child of two wonderful people who are going through some turbulence in their marriage–that thing of having an empty nest/rediscovering each other/discovering they have communication issues that have just been sitting there for 30+ years and are now blowing up. They’re going to get counseling, which hopefully […]

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#964: The Case Of The Interrupting Coworkers

#964: The Case Of The Interrupting Coworkers

Dear Captain Awkward, I’m not sure whether I’m being ungenerous or this really is rude; hopefully you can help! I’ve been with my firm for a long time; longer than most of the staff. I have a ton of institutional knowledge, and am the in-office expert on several specialized processes. Between that and my love […]

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#963: “My husband’s extreme environmental beliefs are a problem. How can I get him to give up this obsession?”

#963: “My husband’s extreme environmental beliefs are a problem. How can I get him to give up this obsession?”

Dear Cap’n, My husband has suffered depression for the past 15 years. It has taken many opportunities for a healthy and positive life from him in that time. He has gone back to school several times, trying to find his passion and came up dry every time. The last degree he got, he started at […]

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May 21 Meetup In Decatur, Georgia

May 21 Meetup In Decatur, Georgia

Details from your host, “Cat,” who self-describes as “a regular lurker:” Hello, Awkwardeers in Atlanta! I am going to try hosting a meetup in Decatur, in the Decatur Square, from 3:00 – 4:00 pm, on Sunday, May 21. You can get there on MARTA rail: get off at Decatur station, take either exit, and turn […]

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#961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.

#961: My friendship is being suffocated by my friend’s overbearing spouse.

Hi Captain, I have a friend of 20 years who got married a few years ago to a man who has a total lack of boundaries. Their marriage coincided with a lot of bad things happening in my life (horrendous breakup and various other life circumstances), so when I relocated back to my home state […]

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#960: “Our friend hits women.”

#960: “Our friend hits women.”

Captain Awkward, My husband has a formerly good friend “Paul,” who has a history of domestic violence. The last three of his relationships have ended after violent physical attacks. We learned about the first two accusations second hand over the course of a few years. The most recent incident feels a bit different because it […]

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May London meetup

May London meetup

Edit:  On floor 2 now, to the right of the Clore ballroom if you’re facing away from the river Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 13th April, 11am onwards.  Please note slight change of location, same as last month – Green Bar rather than Blue, e.g. same thing as the previous […]

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#958: “How do I learn to be okay with an arranged marriage?”

#958: “How do I learn to be okay with an arranged marriage?”

Hi Captain! Many years ago, I was in love with a woman friend of mine, let’s call her P, and when I used my words, she told me that she didn’t feel the same way and was already in love with someone else (a mutual friend of ours, A). I was heart-broken and after about […]

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#957: “Do I have to move because of my husband’s allergies?”

#957: “Do I have to move because of my husband’s allergies?”

Hello Captain and fellow Awkward travelers, My husband and I, along with our 16-month-old daughter, moved to a new city on Saturday. The reason for our move is that I just finished medical school and will be beginning residency in June. Husband woke up this morning and said he’s not sure he can stay in […]

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Links & Stuff

Links & Stuff

If you’re here because you saw my talk on constructive criticism at work at GOTO Chicago yesterday, welcome! I really enjoyed meeting so many of you and I’m interested to adapt the talk to make it more applicable. Thank you for letting the weird art kid come play in your sandbox. Edited to Add: My […]

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#956: “How do I reassure someone I love about their body issues without being bitter about my own?”

#956: “How do I reassure someone I love about their body issues without being bitter about my own?”

Hi Captain, My husband, at the ripe age of 35, is losing his hair. He has had luxuriant long locks since he was a young teenager, long before I knew him. He fought multiple administrative battles with his conservative Catholic high school’s dress code in order to keep it. He considers it an inextricable part […]

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#955: “I’m in a rat trap of my own making.”

#955: “I’m in a rat trap of my own making.”

Hi, Cappy! I recently discovered your column and am so grateful for it. You’re amazing and helpful! I really could use some situational advice, but it’s a long and complex story, sorry! I’m a single parent of a 1st grader. Child support basically doesn’t happen. 3 years ago I was (thankfully) laid off from my […]

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#954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

#954: “I know that ‘a girlfriend is not a pacifier’ but I’m worried that I’m becoming a pacifier for my partner.”

hi captain, i want to thank you so much for your website and lovely community and i hope this message finds you well. i’m having a hard time sorting through some relationship stuff and i’m hoping for some clarity. i’m dating a very sweet and loving man who is still dealing every day with mental […]

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