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March London meetup

March London meetup

Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 25th March, 11am onwards.  Please note slight change of location this month – Green Bar rather than Blue, e.g. same thing but the opposite side. Crafting day.  I can teach knitting to intermediate, or please bring any other craft which won’t mess up the venue […]

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Interlude, March 13-28.

Interlude, March 13-28.

Our families & friends gifted Mr. Awkward and me with a honeymoon trip, and tomorrow’s the day. I’m not bringing a computer with me, so, I’ll see you at the end of March, except for the some of you I might see on March 18 (2pm-5pm, Cafe de Jardin du Petit Palais,Musée des Beaux-arts de […]

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#950: “I’m newly sober. How do I brush off ‘Thirteenth Steppers?'”

#950: “I’m newly sober. How do I brush off ‘Thirteenth Steppers?'”

Hey Team Awkward, This is a quick one.  I’m newly sober and I’ve been attending AA for the last two months. One of my main meetings is a women’s meeting, which is rad, but I’ve tried to open it up a little bit–there’s a co-ed secular meeting and a co-ed meeting that does a physical […]

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#949: “Wedding dis-invitation.”

#949: “Wedding dis-invitation.”

Captain, My partner (he/him pronouns) and I (she/her) have been together for 7 years and are getting married this summer. Our wedding will be a week away in a different state than we live, and we are so excited to spend the time with our family and friends. My partner’s sister is an alcoholic and […]

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#948: “My sister enjoys being the other woman…and telling me alllllll about it.”

#948: “My sister enjoys being the other woman…and telling me alllllll about it.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I’m a decade younger than my sister, who is in her mid-30s. After moving cross country, I feel so liberated and energized with the distance in place between me and my entire family. I have played many roles for my sister…it was a draining pattern. Even as I have put distance between […]

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Bay Area Meetup March 12

Bay Area Meetup March 12

From your host, boxed_light: Hi Captain! Peregrinations got busy this week, so I’ll be hosting our next Bay Area meetup! I’m boxed_light on the forums. Here are the details: San Francisco Bay Area Awkward Meetup! When: Sunday, March 12 at 1 pm Where: PIQ in Berkeley – UPSTAIRS is the plan! 91 Shattuck Ave, Berkeley, […]

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#947: I never learned how to say “No.”

#947: I never learned how to say “No.”

Hi, Captain! I’m really suffering for my inability to say no. I’m pathologically afraid of refusing people or hurting them or letting them down, and so I keep ending up in situations where rather than being able to say ‘I am very uncomfortable with the direction this is going’ I pretend to be just as […]

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#AwkwardFriday Live Chat

#AwkwardFriday Live Chat

Hello! First a short PSA: My friend Dana Norris is looking for relationship/dating-type questions at Role/Reboot. She is all full up on “How do I convince my wife to have a threesome?” questions, so, don’t send her those – she’s covered it. You can email her at deardana@rolereboot.org. Second, I’ll be here until noon answering short […]

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Guest Post! #946: I’m petrified of job-hunting.”

Guest Post! #946: I’m petrified of job-hunting.”

This is a guest post from a kind Patreon contributor who took on the “Advice Columnist For The Day” mantle. I meant to post it ages ago and never actually hit “Post”, so, apologies for the oversight b/c it’s a very good read. Hi Captain! I just graduated college a few months ago and I’m […]

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#944 and #945: Dudes Who Come With A High Degree of Difficulty

#944 and #945: Dudes Who Come With A High Degree of Difficulty

Dear Captain Awkward, I’m afraid I might be walking into an Alice situation (a la letter #247). My boyfriend’s family is very conservative and even though he is an adult, he not only lives with them (which is fine) but lives by their rules, curfews, and puts up with their interrogations over who he is […]

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#943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

#943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

Hello, Preferred pronouns: they/them I found out a few weeks ago that my grandmother was in the hospital due to an illness. This surprised me, but I also knew she was getting older. I decided I needed to start thinking if I wanted reconciliation. When I was around 12 or 13, I purposefully discontinued all […]

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#942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”

#942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I have a situation that is getting very awkward indeed. In a few months, I will be going on vacation to Tokyo with my best friend. This has been a dream of ours for a long time, so we have a lot of plans. A coworker – with whom I’m friendly, but […]

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Three Events: Chicago & Paris

Three Events: Chicago & Paris

I’m doing stuff out and about. Join me? Events listed in the order that they’ll happen: Saturday, February 25, 2017: I’m teaching a short smartphone video workshop for beginners  at the Second City Training Center in Chicago. Want to shoot & edit video on your phone? Want to make it look and sound better? Still some spots […]

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February meetup

February meetup

Correction: March meetup will be the 25th again sorry Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 18th February, 11am onwards. Bad book swap!  Bring any book you don’t want, for any reason (cover too purple, too few explosions, etc.), and take away one someone else didn’t want.  Or just come and chat […]

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#941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?

#941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?

Ahoy Captain! I am a lesbian in her mid-twenties who grew up in a very religious (and homophobic) environment. In my last year of college, I began dating one of my best friends who lived in another state, and slowly began to come out to my social circle, which at that time was largely composed […]

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#940: “My wedding is in 20 days and I think I gotta cancel.”

#940: “My wedding is in 20 days and I think I gotta cancel.”

Ahoy Captain and Commentariat! I feel horrible for writing in with this question because Fiancee and I are supposed to be getting married in roughly 20 days. This was the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and the most serious, but I’m so stressed out I’m about to snap. We met two years ago, started […]

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It Came From The Search Terms: February Stars

It Came From The Search Terms: February Stars

It’s time to answer the questions people typed into their search engine as if they really asked them. 1. “How to make him want to start a family.” There’s no making anybody want anything. Do you want to start a family? Then tell “him” what you want and ask him what he wants. “I know […]

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#938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.

#938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.

Hi, I have a coworker from Iran. The President is about to announce awful policies around admitting people from countries including Iran. I’m pretty sure he and his siblings are all here on non-permament statuses, though I don’t know for sure. He’s a friendly acquaintance, not someone I’d say I have a close relationship with, […]

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