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#943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

#943: “I’m being pressured by my family to reconcile with my estranged grandmother now that she’s dying.”

Hello, Preferred pronouns: they/them I found out a few weeks ago that my grandmother was in the hospital due to an illness. This surprised me, but I also knew she was getting older. I decided I needed to start thinking if I wanted reconciliation. When I was around 12 or 13, I purposefully discontinued all […]

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#942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”

#942: “A coworker invited herself along on my vacation.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I have a situation that is getting very awkward indeed. In a few months, I will be going on vacation to Tokyo with my best friend. This has been a dream of ours for a long time, so we have a lot of plans. A coworker – with whom I’m friendly, but […]

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Three Events: Chicago & Paris

Three Events: Chicago & Paris

I’m doing stuff out and about. Join me? Events listed in the order that they’ll happen: Saturday, February 25, 2017: I’m teaching a short smartphone video workshop for beginners  at the Second City Training Center in Chicago. Want to shoot & edit video on your phone? Want to make it look and sound better? Still some spots […]

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February meetup

February meetup

Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 18th February, 11am onwards. Bad book swap!  Bring any book you don’t want, for any reason (cover too purple, too few explosions, etc.), and take away one someone else didn’t want.  Or just come and chat with us. The venue sell food in a cafe […]

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#941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?

#941: How do I tell my parents I’m a) gay and b) married?

Ahoy Captain! I am a lesbian in her mid-twenties who grew up in a very religious (and homophobic) environment. In my last year of college, I began dating one of my best friends who lived in another state, and slowly began to come out to my social circle, which at that time was largely composed […]

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#940: “My wedding is in 20 days and I think I gotta cancel.”

#940: “My wedding is in 20 days and I think I gotta cancel.”

Ahoy Captain and Commentariat! I feel horrible for writing in with this question because Fiancee and I are supposed to be getting married in roughly 20 days. This was the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in and the most serious, but I’m so stressed out I’m about to snap. We met two years ago, started […]

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It Came From The Search Terms: February Stars

It Came From The Search Terms: February Stars

It’s time to answer the questions people typed into their search engine as if they really asked them. 1. “How to make him want to start a family.” There’s no making anybody want anything. Do you want to start a family? Then tell “him” what you want and ask him what he wants. “I know […]

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#938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.

#938: Supporting Immigrant Coworkers in the USA.

Hi, I have a coworker from Iran. The President is about to announce awful policies around admitting people from countries including Iran. I’m pretty sure he and his siblings are all here on non-permament statuses, though I don’t know for sure. He’s a friendly acquaintance, not someone I’d say I have a close relationship with, […]

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#937: “My manners are being corrected…annoyingly.”

#937: “My manners are being corrected…annoyingly.”

Hello Captain,        Thank you for reading my question. I´ll try to be quick. I have an issue with my MIL correcting my table manners and grammar. If I say something like, ¨I did it on accident…¨  She will insert, ¨BY accident – geeze aren´t you the English teacher?¨   Or ¨I spoke with […]

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#935: “Getting a co-parent to show up on time & explaining to the child that they aren’t to blame for the lateness.”

#935: “Getting a co-parent to show up on time & explaining to the child that they aren’t to blame for the lateness.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I know the number one rule in divorces and co-parenting is to never say mean things about the other parent and to protect the child in a way that won’t “hurt” them. With this in mind, I’ve been struggling trying to explain to my child (who’s 4) why their Father’s lateness in […]

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London January meetup

London January meetup

EDIT: 14th not 15th as a kind commenter pointed out!   Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 14th January, 11am onwards. The theme is New Year’s Revolution! This is the time of year when we’re deluged in body shaming etc, so let’s counter that. Please bring a (positive, supportive) resolution to […]

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#934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”

#934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”

Hi Captain – I have a question about keeping yourself sane while trying to get out of a bad situation. I’m trying to leave my job. Everyone I work with is too. I’m at a very small startup, and the main person in charge is both incredibly demanding and extremely volatile, which makes it virtually […]

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#933: “Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?”

#933: “Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?”

Dear Captain Awkward, Context: My sister and I are incredibly close and talk about everything. We grew up in a Charismatic Christian home. We’ve spent a long time trying to work out The Right Thing, first as Christians, now on our own. These days we’re both happier, but it’s still difficult trying to figure out […]

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Open Thread: Updates

Open Thread: Updates

As a Letter Writer to the blog, you are never obligated to update us. Use the advice that’s useful to you, ignore what isn’t useful, and go live your (hopefully) happy life where you are hopefully able to use your own bathroom whenever you want to. (This letter haunts me to this day and I […]

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Six years!

Six years!

Six years ago today I registered the CaptainAwkward.com domain and started posting. Since then we’ve had: 1202 1203 posts 38,992,754 million page views from about 7.3 million visitors 129,495 (approved) comments 2012’s #322 & #323 “My friend group has a case of the Creepy Dude. How do we clear that up?” was still the most-read post last year, […]

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