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#935: “Getting a co-parent to show up on time & explaining to the child that they aren’t to blame for the lateness.”

#935: “Getting a co-parent to show up on time & explaining to the child that they aren’t to blame for the lateness.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I know the number one rule in divorces and co-parenting is to never say mean things about the other parent and to protect the child in a way that won’t “hurt” them. With this in mind, I’ve been struggling trying to explain to my child (who’s 4) why their Father’s lateness in […]

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London January meetup

London January meetup

EDIT: 14th not 15th as a kind commenter pointed out!   Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 14th January, 11am onwards. The theme is New Year’s Revolution! This is the time of year when we’re deluged in body shaming etc, so let’s counter that. Please bring a (positive, supportive) resolution to […]

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#934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”

#934: “How do I keep myself together in order to leave a toxic work situation?”

Hi Captain – I have a question about keeping yourself sane while trying to get out of a bad situation. I’m trying to leave my job. Everyone I work with is too. I’m at a very small startup, and the main person in charge is both incredibly demanding and extremely volatile, which makes it virtually […]

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#933: “Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?”

#933: “Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?”

Dear Captain Awkward, Context: My sister and I are incredibly close and talk about everything. We grew up in a Charismatic Christian home. We’ve spent a long time trying to work out The Right Thing, first as Christians, now on our own. These days we’re both happier, but it’s still difficult trying to figure out […]

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Open Thread: Updates

Open Thread: Updates

As a Letter Writer to the blog, you are never obligated to update us. Use the advice that’s useful to you, ignore what isn’t useful, and go live your (hopefully) happy life where you are hopefully able to use your own bathroom whenever you want to. (This letter haunts me to this day and I […]

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Six years!

Six years!

Six years ago today I registered the CaptainAwkward.com domain and started posting. Since then we’ve had: 1202 1203 posts 38,992,754 million page views from about 7.3 million visitors 129,495 (approved) comments 2012’s #322 & #323 “My friend group has a case of the Creepy Dude. How do we clear that up?” was still the most-read post last year, […]

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Small behaviors to leave in 2016: The Content-Free Interruption

Small behaviors to leave in 2016: The Content-Free Interruption

So I’m dicking around online this morning, and a friend shared some theories about a show she’s been watching (with spoilers amply warned for) and an invitation for friends who are also watching to discuss. Other people who watch the show weigh in and are happily trading theories and easter eggs and everything is fine […]

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#930: Getting Rid of Unwanted Holiday Houseguests

#930: Getting Rid of Unwanted Holiday Houseguests

Dear Captain I live with my partner and we have a lodger (H). W has a friend who lives abroad (M). M is an alcoholic with a coke problem (not addressed). He has just lost his licence for driving drunk which has also lost him work as he is a self employed builder. M is […]

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#929: “I said I’d be in someone’s wedding even though I wanted to fade out on our friendship. Now what?”

#929: “I said I’d be in someone’s wedding even though I wanted to fade out on our friendship. Now what?”

Dear Captain, I have a school friend, “Susan.” We met last year when I started the program. Around the time this school year started, I started therapy to address Issues, and I came to the decision that Susan should become a Small Doses Friend. I find Susan kind of draining to interact with, and I […]

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#927 & #928 Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh, and The Sweet Gift of Breaking Up With Folks Who Just Aren’t Right For You

#927 & #928 Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh, and The Sweet Gift of Breaking Up With Folks Who Just Aren’t Right For You

Ahoy there Captain! My boyfriend, who I met online through a mutual friend, and I have been dating for about two years now. When we first started talking online, we lived on opposite sides of the country and were in a long distance relationship for over a year before I decided to move to the […]

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Open Thread: Celebration Station

Open Thread: Celebration Station

It comes late this year (had SO MUCH GRADING TO DO, Y’ALL), but this is the traditional open thread for people to share stuff they enjoy about this time of year. There is also a thread for the messy, painful stuff and for folks who are grieving or otherwise down about this time of year […]

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#926: How to deal with a well-meaning but controlling mother-in-law?

#926: How to deal with a well-meaning but controlling mother-in-law?

Hi, Me and my husband have been together for a bit less than seven years now. I have never really liked my mother-in-law and my husband doesn’t really like her company either. Also, everyone who has met her and I’ve talked about this agrees with me. She is exhausting to be around: she talks literally […]

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#924: “My job is killing me. How do I get out?”

#924: “My job is killing me. How do I get out?”

Dear Captain, Thank you for indulging me by reading my email. I have been a lawyer for the last almost 13 years and been at the firm where I am for the last 5. I was so happy to get this job as I have worked in other firms where my desperation to qualify as […]

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NYC December Meetup Sat. 12/17

NYC December Meetup Sat. 12/17

Hi all, What: Captain Awkward NYC meetup When: Saturday Dec. 17th, 2pm Where: Think Coffee, 123 4th Avenue, Manhattan After skipping November due to election feels, the Captain Awkward NYC meetup is back for December.  This month will be board game-centric, I’ll be bringing Hanabi, Lanterns, and Coup. Feel free to bring any games that work well for a […]

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