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#1022: “I’ve got angry Feelingsmail from a friend.”

#1022: “I’ve got angry Feelingsmail from a friend.”

Dear Captain, Over the last year, a once close friend of mine and I have been experiencing the African Violet of broken friendship. We had been through a very intense multi-year creative work project together, and after the project finished and she moved onto another job, we kind of drifted apart. For my part, I […]

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It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

It Came From The Search Terms: September Gurls

Video description: The Bangles cover Big Star’s September Gurls in Pittsburgh in 1986. It’s time for the monthly thing where we answer the things people typed into search engines as if they are actual questions. This feature is generously funded by Patreon supporters. 1 “How to stop a neighbour and hubby putting me down every […]

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“Dear Dana: After you break up with someone, how do you move on?”

“Dear Dana: After you break up with someone, how do you move on?”

My friend Dana Norris writes a good companion piece to our plethora of “or you could break up?” posts here: “Dear Dana: After you break up with someone, how do you move on?” “Staying with the wrong person won’t make you happy, but leaving the wrong person also won’t make you happy. Leaving the wrong […]

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September London meetup

September London meetup

Edit: I meant 16th September, sorry folks   Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 16th September, 12pm onwards.  Please note slight change of location, same as last month – Green Bar rather than Blue, e.g. same thing as the previous location but the opposite side.  Also please note we are starting […]

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Open Thread: Flood & Fire

Open Thread: Flood & Fire

Awkward readers from Texas, Gulf Coast, Puerto Rico, Florida, Antigua, Barbuda, and other Caribbean islands and everyone in hurricane paths or aftermaths, check in if you like and talk to us. Awkward readers dodging fires in the Los Angeles area, Oregon, Washington, Montana, Western Canada & other places (I am sorry, I do not have […]

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#1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”

#1020: “Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work?”

Hiya Cap’n! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over three years, and after a stint of long-distance, the two of us have recently moved in together. Captain, it’s not going well. Most of the ways it’s not going well are problems on my end, though, and they’re all pretty minor, falling into the category […]

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#1019″ “I’m scared of spending money and everybody in my life pressures me not to.”

#1019″ “I’m scared of spending money and everybody in my life pressures me not to.”

Dear Captain Awkward, I have a stable job, am financially independent, and have savings for a rainy day. Yet I have trouble when it comes spending money on myself, and I’m having increasingly emotional reactions to people who comment on how I spend money. I feel guilty when I spend on necessities – if it’s […]

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#1018: My boyfriend’s female “friends.”

#1018: My boyfriend’s female “friends.”

Greetings, Captain Awkward! To get to the point, I keep getting inklings that my boyfriend isn’t as loyal as I would like but I’d love your perspective and any advice you might have. My boyfriend has a couple of female friends who are not friendly to me, and he doesn’t seem to mind this. For […]

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Hurricane Check-In?

Hurricane Check-In?

Houston/Texas/Gulf Coast Readers, are you safe & dry? Are you unsafe and wet? Let us know what’s up with you. For everyone else: Friend-of-Blog and Texan Andrea Grimes compiled a list of local organizations that could put donations to good work on the ground in Texas here, if you want to help but don’t know […]

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It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

It Came From The Search Terms: Summer Pledge Drive Edition

I had a bunch of travel in July and never got that month’s version up. So, here’s another round of that thing where we answer people’s search engine queries like blog questions. 1 “Awkward coworkers who wont get hint

.” Hints don’t work. They just create a sea of plausible deniability for clueless people to splash […]

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#1017: Future Family Funeral Fracas: “Can I stop my mom from acting like an asshole at my friend’s funeral?”

#1017: Future Family Funeral Fracas: “Can I stop my mom from acting like an asshole at my friend’s funeral?”

Hi Captain. Long time lurker, first time questioner. I need some advice with a future script please. Several years ago, my mum had a massive falling out with her best friend of decades – A. They have never made up and mum hasn’t talked to her and her husband since. Mum was distressed and upset […]

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#1016: How do I nicely tell potential dates “I hate talking on the phone and I don’t want to do it with you”?

#1016: How do I nicely tell potential dates “I hate talking on the phone and I don’t want to do it with you”?

Sometimes letters just stack up together in a sequence sort of perfectly. Thank you, Letter Writers! Ahoy, Cap’n! I am a frequent lurker, sometimes commenter, and I have a question that probably has a pretty easy answer, but as I am super awkward myself sometimes, especially in dating, I am struggling to figure it out […]

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#1015: Touching, boundaries, and compatibility

#1015: Touching, boundaries, and compatibility

Hi, and thanks for an awesome and helpful site! My situation: I’ve recently begun a new relationship, and am experiencing some…friction. I’m having trouble telling how much of the issue is incompatibility, and how much is me being “rusty”/ungenerous/inflexible, and I would love some outside insight! A bit about me: I’ve never been a big […]

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#1013: Pressure to reconstruct after a mastectomy

#1013: Pressure to reconstruct after a mastectomy

Dear Captain Awkward, It’s been two years since my diagnosis with a very aggressive form of breast cancer, and eighteen months since my double mastectomy. The type of cancer (IBC) ruled out immediate reconstruction with implants (which I would have declined anyway, because not for me). It used to be that women with IBC didn’t […]

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#1011 and #1012: “Please, tell me more about the person you’re in love with. No, every detail. No, really, I never tire of it.”

#1011 and #1012: “Please, tell me more about the person you’re in love with. No, every detail. No, really, I never tire of it.”

Dear Captain, My best friend, Anna, who I’ve known for many years and love very much, is currently irritating the heck out of me and I don’t know what to do. She hasn’t had the greatest dating history, and through the years I’ve always been there for her to give advice, be supportive or just […]

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#1010: “Exit, pursued by a creepy dude.”

#1010: “Exit, pursued by a creepy dude.”

Hi Captain, I have a friend (I’ll call him “Dave”) whom I haven’t seen in person in years, but am still in touch with on social media. Several months ago, he messaged me to tell me that he liked me and would like to go on a date sometime. I didn’t know him very well […]

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August London meetup

August London meetup

EDIT: On level five, come up in lifts 2 and 3 Royal Festival Hall, Southbank Centre, SE1 8XX near Waterloo station, 17th August, 12pm onwards.  Please note slight change of location, same as last month – Green Bar rather than Blue, e.g. same thing as the previous location but the opposite side.  Also please note we […]

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#1009: Persistence is grossly overrated in dating and romance.

#1009: Persistence is grossly overrated in dating and romance.

Dear Captain, I am a man and I have a problem: I’m a creep. I’m 30 years old, and I haven’t had a whole lot of romantic experience. I’ve been shy my whole life and dealing with anxiety and depression since my teen years, so I haven’t put myself out there as much as I […]

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